When I entered the monastic immersion experience last October, the program specifically for women interested in working with the elderly had not been created, but I've been, de facto, in a precursor to the program. It's been a dance of prayer and work, each benefitting the other and often blending; challenging, deepening, each day offering the opportunity to put spiritual ideals into practice. Working with the elder sisters has been a rare opportunity to enter thoroughly into the life of the monastery, and I have received more love than I have given, from the other caregivers as well as the sisters.Practical skills and people skills have grown. Prayer has deepened and become more than ever a river flowing quietly and powerfully beneath the surface of everyday life.
It seems that almost everyone coming to volunteer at the monastery has stereotypes and illusions about religious life and the people that have chosen it, which crumble with blessed rapidity as the days pass. Then, more slowly but with much more satisfaction, one gets to know and greatly appreciate the sisters as individual human beings: this one's integrity, intelligence, and sense of humor, that one's warmth and exuberance, another's unflappability as I broke the nut-cracking device on a rock-hard black walnut and she did the same with the other one ten minutes later. Valuing the solemnity of the greater feasts and enjoying the quirks and non-ecclesiastical passions of the greater community: sharing in the search and widespread commiseration when our maintenance man's coffee cup, so chipped and stained that only its mother could love it, carefully placed behind the coffee machine after washing so that no one else could either use it or be appalled by it, was lost; coming to recognize one sister's bright Gonzaga T-shirt worn as a public-service announcement that there is a televised game that night.
I like the variety of the work: the majority of the hours I put in make use of my caregiving and massage therapist's skills, but there is always something else for diversion, from hoisting the Advent wreath by ropes hanging from two stories above, to raking leaves, to writing and talking, collaborating on a new project.
The sisters' way of life lends itself to putting in practice the ideals for quality of life for the very elderly or handicapped which are emerging in the world at large: integration into the community, contributing, respected, finding meaning in life until the very end; the community benefitting by the presence of its eldest members and able to ensure and contribute to the quality of their care.
Time to show up for prayer...will end here. All the best, Annon.
New Monastic: Notes from a stay at St. Gertrude's
A blog for volunteers at the Monastery of St. Gertrude, a Benedictine women's monastery in Northcentral Idaho. A chance to share insights and reflections as they experience monastic life.
Tuesday, March 18, 2014
Saturday, November 9, 2013
Bit of an impasse
When asked to add a contribution to this blog, I worked on it for some hours yesterday, posted it, then deleted it. In the end, all that I'm really capable of contributing is the observation that the Monastic Immersion Program is a great opportunity for a person who is just beginning to explore the ideals and practices of monasticism. It is also a fruitful way for a person long familiar with those ideals to live more powerfully a contemplative vocation, whether or not that vocation is specifically to Benedictine monasticism. But I'm not a writer, and for anything worth saying the words I can find are too trite and too hackneyed to make a worthwhile and readable contribution to the blog. Elena is a writer, and I enjoy her contributions and appreciate her generosity in sharing her experiences.
All the best,
Annon (another member of the 9-month Monastic Immersion Experience)
Wednesday, October 23, 2013
On Labels
by Elena Coe
We are a couple classes into our program now, and we've begun to discuss what it means to be a monk. After all, we're all here to learn about being more monk-like, so it only makes sense to work out some kind of defining factors. Right?
Given the huge scope of mysticism and monastic life throughout religions and cultures, it is hard to specify too many particulars about what a monk does. But ultimately, the overarching defining factor of monastic devotion seems to be this: to seek relationship with god/the transcendent above all else. There are certainly elements of prayer, obedience, love, and humility that generally accompany that journey towards enlightenment or eternal life, but the primary motivation for those behaviors truly makes the difference.
This all gets me to wondering, however, about intentionality versus action. On the one hand, I could argue that anyone whose intention is to seek God above all else and self-defines as a monk is, in fact, a monk. The success of their journey may not matter much if we define the monk by the act of seeking rather than by the outcomes of the search. If that's the case, then could someone call themselves a monk even if they lived in ways most people would not define as monastic? Should people who are not practiced in righteousness and love still gain the title of being a monk simply because they make efforts to do so? And more importantly, what then separates a 'normal' pious or conscious person from a monk?
To me, as an artist and writer, I've often struggled with a similar problem of defining identity. What is a writer, after all? It is simply someone who writes? How much do you have to write to fall into the category of 'a writer'? Every day? Do you have to be published? Do you have to be good? Can I simply call myself a writer because I have the intention and skill to write?
Personally, I've come to my own conclusion that self-identification matters more than what categories the outer world places me in. With that in mind, I choose to make the distinction based on what I believe feeds my spirit and makes me feel more like myself. Being a writer fits me. I don't have to write every day or be published to know that I will always love to write and that the action of writing is an integral part of who I am.
As for monasticism... I don't know that I'm confident enough yet in my own definition of what a monk is to truly know whether I feel like one. Maybe the label is intimidating me because of all its broader connotations and historical associations. I remember when I was afraid to call myself a writer because I felt it was presumptuous. Eventually, I overcame that fear because I came to sense writing as an process instead of a destination. Intellectually, I believe the same thing about monasticism. So, perhaps it is only a matter of time before I realize that I can be more than a writer, a singer, an artist, a sister, a daughter, a student, a friend... But that I can also be a monk.
We are a couple classes into our program now, and we've begun to discuss what it means to be a monk. After all, we're all here to learn about being more monk-like, so it only makes sense to work out some kind of defining factors. Right?
Given the huge scope of mysticism and monastic life throughout religions and cultures, it is hard to specify too many particulars about what a monk does. But ultimately, the overarching defining factor of monastic devotion seems to be this: to seek relationship with god/the transcendent above all else. There are certainly elements of prayer, obedience, love, and humility that generally accompany that journey towards enlightenment or eternal life, but the primary motivation for those behaviors truly makes the difference.
This all gets me to wondering, however, about intentionality versus action. On the one hand, I could argue that anyone whose intention is to seek God above all else and self-defines as a monk is, in fact, a monk. The success of their journey may not matter much if we define the monk by the act of seeking rather than by the outcomes of the search. If that's the case, then could someone call themselves a monk even if they lived in ways most people would not define as monastic? Should people who are not practiced in righteousness and love still gain the title of being a monk simply because they make efforts to do so? And more importantly, what then separates a 'normal' pious or conscious person from a monk?
To me, as an artist and writer, I've often struggled with a similar problem of defining identity. What is a writer, after all? It is simply someone who writes? How much do you have to write to fall into the category of 'a writer'? Every day? Do you have to be published? Do you have to be good? Can I simply call myself a writer because I have the intention and skill to write?
Personally, I've come to my own conclusion that self-identification matters more than what categories the outer world places me in. With that in mind, I choose to make the distinction based on what I believe feeds my spirit and makes me feel more like myself. Being a writer fits me. I don't have to write every day or be published to know that I will always love to write and that the action of writing is an integral part of who I am.
As for monasticism... I don't know that I'm confident enough yet in my own definition of what a monk is to truly know whether I feel like one. Maybe the label is intimidating me because of all its broader connotations and historical associations. I remember when I was afraid to call myself a writer because I felt it was presumptuous. Eventually, I overcame that fear because I came to sense writing as an process instead of a destination. Intellectually, I believe the same thing about monasticism. So, perhaps it is only a matter of time before I realize that I can be more than a writer, a singer, an artist, a sister, a daughter, a student, a friend... But that I can also be a monk.
Wednesday, October 16, 2013
Another Batch in the Oven
by Elena Coe
Welcome to a new year of the long-term Monastic Immersion
Experience! The nine-month program for 2013-2014 has three participants, and we
are finally all here together at the Monastery of St. Gertrude, beginning our
work, prayer, and classes. In other words, the ingredients have all come together into ooey-gooey delicious dough, and now we're popping into the oven. Who knows how it will all turn out, right? (I'm guessing pretty good.)
This blog is meant to be a place for the three of us to
divulge our thoughts and experiences while in the program, and I hope that you
may find some of it interesting. I feel like giving a little disclaimer about
my personal faith journey might be prudent, since much of this blog will
consist of musings and questions that will make a lot more sense in the context
of my life. So, if you’re interested, please, read on!
Growing up in a non-religious household, I was never one to
actively seek out church. My mom would sometimes take us to various protestant
churches, but those events were so rare that I suspect I could tell you about
each one. I never particularly disliked church—I especially enjoyed the goodies
that were provided in the lobby out front after the service—but I never looked
forward to it either. So when I found myself surrounded by religious friends in
high school, I began to wonder what I might have been missing out on. There
seemed to be such a comfort in the community of church, the ritual of prayer,
and the love that often emanated from religious people. Intellectually, I still
didn’t agree with religion, but I began to be fascinated by it.
When I was deciding on a university, my first impulse was to
rule out religiously-affiliated schools entirely, convinced that I would be
judged and left out by a community so focused on something I wasn’t a part of. But
somehow, through a combination of serendipity and practicality, I ended up
deciding to attend Seattle University, a Jesuit school in Seattle’s hippest neighborhood,
Capitol Hill. Admittedly, as far as Catholic schools go, Seattle U is not
strict about its religious aspects. In fact, the faith of my school became one
of my favorite things to talk about because it was so incredibly open-minded
and open-ended in its practice. I began to see faith and spirituality
differently through the variety of expressions I witnessed every day on my
campus. Singing choral music, in particular, brought me closer to religion than
I had ever been before. Additionally, working on retreats through my campus
ministry gave me an increasingly vivid idea of the potential of my own
spirituality. But still, I didn’t consider becoming Catholic—or any religion.
And, I still rarely attended any church services.
So when it came time for me to decide what to do after
college, with a double major in English and Digital Design and very little
certainty about how I wanted to “set the world on fire” (thanks, Jesuits), I
found myself called to a period of exploration.
Exploration can, of course, mean a lot of different things,
and there are certainly a multitude of areas I want to explore while I’m young,
able-bodied, and relatively free-spirited. But after finding the Monastic
Immersion Experience and considering it for a year, I felt like my spiritual
journey might be the perfect first step in this exploratory time. If faith
could be my rock, as it is for so many, I would rather start to find my footing
before venturing out into the rest of my exploration. I also knew I could use
some healing and refocusing after the crazy whirlwind that is the urban college
student experience.
Now, I’m almost a month into my stay at the Monastery of St.
Gertrude, and I am already learning and experiencing beautiful things. Given
how much I do not know, I am not surprised. So, go easy on me. I am sure to mix
up terms once or twice, and I most certainly will come to conclusions that millions
of people have already reached. But, my hope is that I may be able to express
my unique journey in a way that inspires or touches even those who have long
since walked the road I’ve just started.
Monday, June 3, 2013
Peering Beyond the Prayer Book: Epilogue
So what have I learned? After
nine months of living, praying, and working at a monastery, what does it all
mean?
Was it worth it?
To answer all of these
questions, it may be best to start at the beginning. By beginning I mean the
application that I sent to Sr. Teresa to apply for the monastic immersion
program. I found the file again through my work, and it has been interesting
listening to my self from one year ago and saying, “Ha, if only you knew what
was coming!” One of the most important pieces looking at my application today
was when I was asked to describe my greatest hope for my volunteer experience
(in twenty words or less). I wrote, “To be confident in myself as well as my
relationship with God, spending time in silence and prayer.” Well friends, I
have spent more time in silence than I would have liked and lots of time in
prayer, but what is more striking to me is the first part of my hope, that I
was looking for self-confidence and to feel secure in my relationship with God.
In reflecting on my
experience, self-confidence occurred almost immediately. The first few days
after my arrival left me unexpectedly anxious. I was terribly nervous and
unsure of how to act, what to wear, or where to go. Living among 40 women much
older than I made me feel a bit like an alien from another planet, and suddenly
I did not know what was “acceptable.”
Suddenly, a voice of reason.
I arrived in the midst of an
artist-in-residence program and as a birthday treat they invited me to come
with them to Taco Tuesday at the local Pub & Grub (no trip to the Monastery
is complete without such a visit). Over drinks and tacos, one of the artists
told me, “You know, it’s so great that you can just be yourself here.” Immediately,
my fears vanished. She was right. I could and can only be myself; I cannot be anyone else. I can only be Sarah in all
my multi-faceted, sparkling, fluorescent self. I vowed then to be completely
myself, and if there were problems with that, I would deal with them when they
happened.
There were problems.
While I felt much, much
better by being myself, not everyone was pleased at my presence here at the
monastery. It was as much a growing experience for me being here as it was for
the sisters, some of whom more than once have shushed me if I have gotten “out
of hand.” There has been frequent confusion over which rooms I can and cannot
go in. There are many comments about my youthful energy as constantly run up
and down the stairs, and I am sure no one will miss my incessant “flip-flop,
flip-flop” up and down the halls. Nevertheless through it all, I have
continuously reflected on my behavior and actions. If there is something I did
that was inappropriate or unacceptable, then I would apologize. If I have
behaved respectfully and courteously, then this helps me to see my boundaries.
What is my stuff and what is someone else’s has been a recurring theme for me,
and I have had much practice noting when I am projecting onto others and when
someone else is projecting onto me.
To return to my original hope
for my volunteer experience, I also hoped “for greater confidence in my
relationship with God.” What a strange thing to hope for, in retrospect. My
relationship with God is even more complicated and my spirituality has
undergone great change. The most notable change occurred when I was assisting
Sr. Teresa during a retreat. While much of the information she was sharing I
had already heard countless times because of various classes, one part was
brand-new: Balance. While the struggle for balance has been a theme in my life
for many years, this was my first time truly looking at what balance means to
me. We went through ideas of Benedictine balance (not very balanced), balance
as most people would like it (each commitment being equal to every other
commitment), and the new balance (not the shoe brand). Teresa’s slide for The
New Balance asked just three questions:
Is God part of your life or is God your life?
Is prayer something you do or is prayer an attitude of
life?
Is faith what you believe or how you live your life?
In these three questions, my
spirituality and understanding of my faith has exploded into a realm of
possibility. Moving beyond compartmentalizing, these questions have invited me
to do what I already knew: to live fully and completely as I am. I am living my
faith by being fully who I am, aware of God’s permeation in everything and
everyone, and living in gratefulness and thanksgiving.
Now, while this all sounds
interesting, this in no way means that I can definitively say, “Yes, I do
that.” I cannot honestly say that God is my life, my attitude is prayer, or
that I am truly living my faith always.
But I’m trying.
This is my faith journey, to
strive towards these understandings of God, prayer, and faith as my life. Will
I ever get there? Perhaps not, but that hardly seems to be the point.
There is a story of an elder
monk who is asked by a novice, “So what is it you all do here at the
monastery?” The elder monk replies, “We fall down, and we get up. We fall down,
and we get up.” The point, in my opinion, is that I continue to get up and try
again.
It seems apropos that I end
my blog with the same idea that started it: peering beyond my prayer book. Over
time, my curiosity has drifted from the people… to a leaf. From where I sit,
there is a single leaf that can be seen, presumably attached to a creeping
vine. Every prayer time I check to see if my leaf is still there, and through
everything, even the craziest weather (like hail and snow in May), the leaf is
still there. Over time, I have come to realize that I identify myself with that
leaf. At times when I am ready to leave because of the latest ridiculous event,
I find myself hoping that the leaf will fly away, away from here and free to
soar. At other times, I find myself hoping the leaf will still be there, firmly
rooted and connected at a time when I especially need my own rooted and
groundedness. One such time occurred at the demise of one of the sisters. Maybe
the tenacity of my leaf reflects my own tenacity. I was asked once in the midst
of a very difficult time why I stayed. After thinking briefly, I responded that
I had made a commitment. I committed to my time here at the Monastery, and I
felt that there was still more for me to learn here.
There have been days that I
feel like I am living in the middle of “Freaking-Cottonwood- Idaho,” but then
there are other days that I am struck by something beautiful that it puts me at
a loss for words. Some days I am being told off about something I did or did
not do and other days I am laughing over a great story someone told. There have
been days that I felt utterly alone and days that I felt perfectly at ease. Through
all the drama, chaos, homesickness (mine, not theirs) and menopause (theirs,
not mine), something has really changed in me.
Some soul work has truly
occurred, and I am so much happier for it.
Thanks everyone!
Thursday, May 16, 2013
Peering Beyond the Prayer Book: Getting to Know the Kelleys
Two of the people most dedicated and devoted to the
Monastery of St. Gertrude are not vowed Benedictine sisters, but are instead a
married couple living nearby. Fred and Jeannette Kelley have devoted themselves
to continuously volunteering and serving at the Monastery in every way they
can. While they might seem like an unlikely pair from looking at them, the love
they have for each other is clearly evident, and just as evident is their love
for the community at the Monastery of St. Gertrude.
The ultimate test of a place, in my opinion, is
through the image of roots. The Kelleys have found such deep roots in
Cottonwood and at the Monastery that they could not imagine being anywhere
else. As I reflect on my time here as it comes to a close, I know they are
right. If I had this year to live over, I cannot imagine being anywhere else.
Sr. Teresa and Jeannette |
Originally introduced to many of the sisters through
church programs, they eventually became oblates, two of the first eight to ever
do so with this community. An oblate is a lay member of the community who
follows the Rule of St. Benedict insofar as their state in life allows
including men or women, married or single. Over time, Benedictine spirituality
became even more entrenched in their lives and thus, when the time came to
retire, moving to Cottonwood to be closer to the Monastery became the logical
choice. Since then Fred is a regular volunteer at the Historical Museum on
campus and enjoys helping the kitchen staff by washing pots and pans (which I
can attest is also a tremendous help to everyone else). Jeannette can be
regularly found answering the phone and listening intently to everyone who
needs her. She also co-coordinates the Oblate community with Sr. Teresa
Jackson, a job that never seems to slow. In these ways and more, the Kelleys
are giving back to a community that gives them so much.
Sr. Mary and Fred |
Fred at one point when we were talking remarked that
he always wanted a sister. Today he has about 50 of them through the
relationships he has found here. Jeannette too has appreciated being with the
sisters and feels hopeful about the future of the community. The oblate
community will also help further the monastery, creating a foundation of
support for the sisters' future. Maybe other oblates will follow suit, move
nearby and assist like the Kelleys have done. Indeed, stranger things have
occurred because of the “Benedictine magnetism” as Fred describes it. For
Jeannette, the prayer and spiritual support from both the monastery and the
oblates has become her favorite aspect of her involvement.
For myself, I have met many of the oblates, and have come
to know how great they are as a group and as individuals. Because of this, I am
categorically interested in my own potential commitment to a community someday.
Being a vowed religious does not seem to be the call for me, but the
possibility of living completely as I am and living my faith in the best way
that I can (as the oblates do) seems to be the invitation for me.
Friday, April 19, 2013
Peering Beyond the Prayer Book: Talking with Sr. Teresa
When I first considered
coming to Idaho after living on the East coast my entire life, I began polling
everyone I knew by asking them, “What’s in Idaho?” All I knew was that there
was a Benedictine monastery named the Monastery of St. Gertrude, and one of the
sisters there was a Sr. Teresa. She quickly became Sr. Teresa of Idaho, in
order for me to distinguish her from a Sr. Theresa that I worked with, and thus
became the first of many of the St. Gertrude community to receive a nickname
from me. While the process of a ten-month monastic immersion has certainly been
a learning experience for both of us, it became important to me to understand
what Teresa does other than answering my incessant, random questions.
Upon her entrance to the
Monastery, Teresa began working with the retreat ministry, later becoming
involved with the oblate community. Over time, she has also become the director
for vocations as well as for live-in volunteers, eventually becoming known as
the membership director. The title of membership director seems less specific,
which is precisely for this reason that Teresa favors it. Membership, according
to Teresa, can be a vocations interest as a vowed religious sister, but it also
includes the oblates, volunteers, and monastic immersioners. This allows for
her to listen more deeply to where each individual might feel the most at home
in regards to all the different possibilities. Of course, her experience as a
spiritual director also plays a big part in this process. This can be the best
and most challenging aspect of her job. Teresa’s favorite part of all that she
does is getting to know people on their spiritual journeys, listening and
sharing knowledge at a depth that is rare in most other situations. This same
aspect however, can provide a great challenge for Teresa. If, in the listening,
it seems for any number of reasons that it will not be a good fit for someone
to come to the Monastery, she is then challenged to articulate this
understanding to the person, a task often easier said than done. Nevertheless,
Teresa continues her work to attract solid, healthy and committed members of
all kinds, for her belief is that these members will be the future. Religious
life of all kinds is dwindling, as is most clearly evident with the numerous
shortages of priests as of late. Vocations are not what they used to be, and the
growth of any community will require an acceptance of nontraditional members.
In this time of transition, Teresa is hopeful for what will come in the future,
but it will take creativity and transformation for a bright future to occur.
Enjoying a well deserved milkshake break with some volunteers (Sr. Teresa is on the left side, center) |
Teresa is most certainly
undergoing her own transformation as a part of the community at the Monastery
of St. Gertrude. By giving up her autonomy, she has become transformed from an
“I” to a “we;” from being “alone” to being “all of us.” The community, as she
describes it, allows her to do more and become more than she ever could on her
own. A naturally quiet and solitary person, the challenges of living with so
many people do arise often, and it is through reflection that the
transformation occurs for Sr. Teresa to be in her own words, “remade in the
image of Christ.”
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